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Open to love

 I have been presented love  , and it has been a long time since I have felt pure essence in love from a man. Being single for so many years I have been in my healing and very cautious when associating with men. 

I know that being vulnerable is a scary feeling for all of us.  We have all touched a hot stove more than once.  

What we have to unlearn is subjecting our selves to pain and saving our hearts for actually feels right. At some point we have to open up for the right things. 

Open up for love.  Accept it rather it works or not and just enjoy the moments. 

Coach Miko

Did you do your part?

 

Knowing that you did your part is most important. You can only do what you can do in regards to human interaction. You must await the responses or lack of response from the other person , if you want to wait. You cannot force anyone to see things your way or even be interested in what you are offering; Rather it is your friendship , your love , your help or anything else. As long as you did what you felt you needed to then you should move forward in peace that it will work out the way that it is suppose to.

Coach Miko

The Ego Verses The Soul

The reason why I wanted to discuss Ego versus Soul is because it appears to me that most human beings live through their egos and they have not yet become in touch with their soul, not a very pleasant way to live not for yourself nor the people that are close to you so I want to do a little discovery so that maybe we can begin to understand how we can live through our souls. 

The ego is obsessed with competition On the other hand the soul is cooperative. The ego usually expresses itself with self will the soul on the other hand expresses a God's will OK. The ego at most times has no agendasis aimless it's just out here and it's consumed with desires and trends and possessions and ads, but the echo has a clear sense of True purpose And meaningful things in life. 

Coach Miko

Learning to just be quiet.

 Ladies everything that comes to mind does not need to e shared or said aloud. A wise woman once said that "Silence is golden". When you feel compelled to go off and tll someone like it is, stop and think. Is is nice? Is it worth it? What does this change in my life?  Take a few deep breaths and wonder if it will just be  waste of energy ? That energy could be directed to something better right?

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You are enough

Ladies, 

You are enough for the the people and things that belong in your life and never too much for those things. If someone makes you question that , you may need to re-evaluate that relationship or friendship. Relationships should bring additional goodness to your life, not self doubt and insecure feelings.

Everyone will not understand you.

You do not need to justify people why you choose to entertain only certain standards in your life, and with the people you choose to engage with . Focus giving your time and attention to those who are willing to and committed to meet you at those standards . Go where you will be valued and leave those who try to question you for it. You don not owe an explanation to anybody. 

How do you know that someone is toxic?

If you feel uneasy around someone or have to prepare yourself mentally to interact with someone , they may be toxic to you. Your body tells you when you aren't comfortable, your intuition is real. Be attentive, when they aren't happy for your victories or only want to talk about themselves or things that they know may hurt you. It is up to you what you choose to do , but remember that he choice is yours.

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Let it burn - Photo Credit : Ashy Keba

Let it burn, and I mean in a good way... In the famous words of J.Sullivan ,  "When you feel that fire let it burn". I know that allowing someone back in and letting your guard down to open up your feelings are scary, however you are stronger than you think. You have made it through %100 of your pain and the possibility of true love stands behind the other side of the door. You must take a chance at love if you ever want it real and true.  There was a time when I felt that love just wasn't for me and that maybe I was meant to be single forever. That is the kind of mind set that will keep you there. I'd rather continue in believing that there are good people out there and that when it is my time he will find , cherish and honor me.

Coach Miko

Affirmation:

Repeat this to yourself daily:

I am an asset to anything that I am involved in.