Everyone will not understand you.

You do not need to justify people why you choose to entertain only certain standards in your life, and with the people you choose to engage with . Focus giving your time and attention to those who are willing to and committed to meet you at those standards . Go where you will be valued and leave those who try to question you for it. You don not owe an explanation to anybody. 

How do you know that someone is toxic?

If you feel uneasy around someone or have to prepare yourself mentally to interact with someone , they may be toxic to you. Your body tells you when you aren't comfortable, your intuition is real. Be attentive, when they aren't happy for your victories or only want to talk about themselves or things that they know may hurt you. It is up to you what you choose to do , but remember that he choice is yours.

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Let it burn - Photo Credit : Ashy Keba

Let it burn, and I mean in a good way... In the famous words of J.Sullivan ,  "When you feel that fire let it burn". I know that allowing someone back in and letting your guard down to open up your feelings are scary, however you are stronger than you think. You have made it through %100 of your pain and the possibility of true love stands behind the other side of the door. You must take a chance at love if you ever want it real and true.  There was a time when I felt that love just wasn't for me and that maybe I was meant to be single forever. That is the kind of mind set that will keep you there. I'd rather continue in believing that there are good people out there and that when it is my time he will find , cherish and honor me.

Coach Miko

Affirmation:

Repeat this to yourself daily:

I am an asset to anything that I am involved in.

Meditation Music, Stress Relief Music, Relaxing Music, Sleep Music,

Try listening. I would like to share with those who are interested these soothing meditation sounds. This has become so important in my life. Feel free to ask questions.

Coach Miko

Feeling Overwhelmed

Feeling emotionally overwhelmed can cause you to feel high levels of anxiety. I noticed that I personally feel overwhelmed do to the amount of time that I have spent solely managing everything  in my life. Being a  single mother, I manage my home independently , I am a sole business owner , so I manage the business all by myself as well. This can also be hard when you have a life partner. I have adapted to not asking for help , I began to feel that way after noticing that people really didn't seem to have time or maybe even the energy to have even a listening ear. These things can very well contribute to anxiety , leading to the feeling of being overwhelmed. I will share some tips on tomorrow on how to manage such things!

Her words of Wisdom

Give your attention to what you want to see in life and be grateful about it.

Single-Settled-Satisfied

Sure you'd love to have it all right now, but rushing will never give you what you deserve, something lasting and real. Use this time to invest in yourself, knowing that when the time comes to deposit into a relationship , you won't bankrupt your heart, nor will you default on your promise to stay as loyal and consistent as it takes.

Healing Hurts

You may think that you have healed ,and then you realize that you need to heal some more.
Sometimes you have to sit in your stuff and call yourself out.Once you begin holding yourself accountable, forgiving yourself, etc. that is when the true healing will start.

Now listen... Healing never ends, you just reach new levels.
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Her words of Wisdom

Do not feel bad for moving on without someone, if you do not let go of the wrong people you will never find the right ones.