Feeling Overwhelmed

Feeling emotionally overwhelmed can cause you to feel high levels of anxiety. I noticed that I personally feel overwhelmed do to the amount of time that I have spent solely managing everything  in my life. Being a  single mother, I manage my home independently , I am a sole business owner , so I manage the business all by myself as well. This can also be hard when you have a life partner. I have adapted to not asking for help , I began to feel that way after noticing that people really didn't seem to have time or maybe even the energy to have even a listening ear. These things can very well contribute to anxiety , leading to the feeling of being overwhelmed. I will share some tips on tomorrow on how to manage such things!

Her words of Wisdom

Give your attention to what you want to see in life and be grateful about it.

Single-Settled-Satisfied

Sure you'd love to have it all right now, but rushing will never give you what you deserve, something lasting and real. Use this time to invest in yourself, knowing that when the time comes to deposit into a relationship , you won't bankrupt your heart, nor will you default on your promise to stay as loyal and consistent as it takes.

Healing Hurts

You may think that you have healed ,and then you realize that you need to heal some more.
Sometimes you have to sit in your stuff and call yourself out.Once you begin holding yourself accountable, forgiving yourself, etc. that is when the true healing will start.

Now listen... Healing never ends, you just reach new levels.
I love it here.

Her words of Wisdom

Do not feel bad for moving on without someone, if you do not let go of the wrong people you will never find the right ones.

If I talk about it I'll cry, so it's a secret. (Cont'd from post below)

Does one or more idea come to mind as a secret ? You may not feel safe discussing it because you are afraid of being judged, which probably means that you do not feel that there is a trustworthy person to express your thoughts with. Now that doesn't mean that there is no one trustworthy around you , however your perspective on this is what matters the most.

You may also not discuss these thought or feelings because some information is just that personal to you and that too is perfectly ok.

If you do not have anyone to confide in, you may feel unsupported which can cause frustration, anger or sadness and those are normal emotions.

If you feel that it is important to share please consider exploring someone professionally, such as a spiritual adviser , therapist etc.

If I talk about it I'll cry, so it's a secret.

How many secrets do you have?
Why don't  you feel safe discussing it? Do you have a confidant?
How does that make you feel? How can you change this?

Write the answers down. I will be discussing in my next post.

Her words of Wisdom

If it doesn't feel good after you have done it, then you shouldn't do it. Do not put their feelings first if it will cause you pain or contributes to self destruction. Just say no and do not feel bad about it.

He may not be able to love a Goddess, be a Goddess anyway. You are the prize. keep that mindset!

Has he been there for you?

Purpose

I have learned to appreciate myself and my purpose. My purpose may not be understood by anyone else ,however that does no make any difference.  For some of us you may never feel understood by others. Some may even struggle with the fact that you are misunderstood or that no "gets you" . One day you will begin to understand yourself and when that begins ,you will also begin to care less of the understanding or approval of others. I will touch on this a a lot in my writting. Learning  to be complete within myself took a lot and boy was it all worth it .

Be yourself, that's why you are here , not to prove your worth to anyone except for yourself.

Her words of Wisdom

Woman,

You are resilient. It is not too late to begin a new! Give yourself all that you deserve.

I almost forgot me

There was a time , many years ago in which I was so consumed with everyone else in my life , and  that was all that mattered. I woke up every morning to get my children ready for school, husband at the time for work and then I would leave for the day to work myself.

After work , I immediately would return home to help with homework, cook dinner, iron everyones clothes etc. I was married with three children, a spouse that both worked and went to school, therefor I managed the home, (children, maintenance, finances, bill payments etc.) I never had time for me , nor did it ever cross my mind. I was just happy being a wife and mom with a call center job that paid well. I had been  with my then husband for 8 years and all I wanted to do was be a wife and mom. I really thought that that was the perfect life .

Now while I loved those things, I never took time for myself. When my marriage ended I realized that I didn't really know myself or what I wanted or needed. I had totally forgotten myself.  I was 27 years old at the time of my divorce, but once I was out on my own , I began to learn that all of the years that I was just rolling through daily life managing everyone that , what strength it took.  I found out that I love make up and hair and bags and shoes. I realized that I had to begin my career in the field of my dreams , I realized that I had an amazing since of humor. It took me years to not feel guilty for showing myself some love, but now I freely do so!!! Try it!

Happy Friday!